It’s been three months since I started my blog. I’ve done a giveaway to thank all of you, my readers, and now it’s time for some introspection. I’m all about self-analysis because it’s the only way I will improve myself and this blog. I’ve already learned so much and I thought I’d share some things…a confession, if you will, from a first-time blogger…
Putting yourself out there is hard. I used to write professionally, but I never rewrote, overthought, and questioned my writing as much as I do now. But that was for work, and this is for me. Everything I write is about my life and provides anonymous people on the internet with a clear glimpse into my real life – it’s important to get it right. I don’t know if I’m getting it right, but I’m trying. And this trying requires a significant amount of time and mental energy.
Must take breaks from social media. I use social media (Facebook and Instagram) to promote my blog. It’s that simple, and without it my blog would just be taking up space on the world wide web because no one would read it. Literally, no one. So I’ve learned to embrace social media for it’s endless communication capabilities. BUT, it can also consume every waking minute if I let it…from checking “likes” to responding to comments to commenting on other social media posts. ALL CONSUMING. I found myself getting distracted and not focusing on my family so I have established set times of day when I use social media and that’s it. Outside of those times I put down my phone, close my computer screen and focus on my life. My real life, not the world that we see on social media…a world that is not perfectly curated with amazing outfits and hair….a world filled with poop, screaming babes and messiness. It’s wonderful too if I take time to see it.
Find value in my own closet. I’ve received a lot of questions about my outfits and how I have the money to buy all of these new outfits for my blog. Well, the answer is I don’t. In this outfit, for example, the booties and my handbag are both old. I purchased the sweater and dress this season from & Other Stories. I combine the old with the new to make an outfit that is all my own.
Do what I love. My blog post topics are based on what I love. I read magazines and other blogs for inspiration. I have some favorite Instagram accounts like @fashion_jackson, @themilleraffect @thefoxandshe, that provide me with endless inspiration as well. I will continue writing this blog as long as I feel inspired.
Make friends. I have made a lot of “virtual” friends in the blogging community via Instagram. Whoa, that sounds kinda weird. But, it’s cool. I promise. I’ve found a very supportive community who is interested in the same things (style, beauty, etc.) I am. And who wouldn’t welcome that?
It’s ok not to feel creative. Some days, I just don’t feel like it. I’m uninspired and distracted, and that’s ok. It’s good to take a break and come back to it. Often, I’m glad I took the break because I come back with even better ideas.
Haters gonna hate. This has been the hardest thing to swallow about blogging. No one has been outright negative to my face (so far), but there have been a lot of negative passive comments made. In all honesty, I hadn’t prepared myself for this negativity when I started the blog. I thought…”I want to start this blog, people will love it or hate it, and I’ll be doing something creative and positive with my life so the net result will be positive.” This may be a little naive. The lack of support of some people close to me has hurt but I’ve learned a lot about myself and others and I’ve come to accept that some people won’t be supportive. And, that’s ok.
So here’s the true confession time: I really and truly started this blog as a creative outlet but, as in any endeavor, I want to be successful. When I started, I didn’t realize how much success would mean to me. But, after devoting so much time to this I realize that success is important. I’m not fully aware of what success looks like, but here’s what I know: I would like to continue to grow my following, make interesting content and eventually be recognized by brands through sponsorship (and yes sometimes this involves making money). And, haters are always gonna hate so I need to have a thick skin.
So my true confessions are over now, and I hope you appreciated my honesty. On a more lighthearted note, I’m loving this sweater over the dress outfit from & Other Stories. It’s perfect for the holidays…just dressy enough without being too dressy.
Until next time..
Photographs by Shanna Kaye Photo